Thank you all for your incites. I couldn't be in a better place while going through this.

cat- I thought maybe it was H's way of trying to keep a foot in the door, but I sure can see your way of thinking. Just the curious me looking for answers. Better use of time to use that energy on me.

Will try to find my way around FB this weekend, a 3 dayer, yippee!
Will let you know if I'm successful. lol!