Thanks, Kettricken. Of course my intention is not to question her childhood memories, or attack her home life, and it's hard, when writing about as much as I did, to include everything. My main point is that there's quite a lot of meaty stuff in my own childhood, which was not abusive by any means, but definitely had its unhappy side (absent/bullying father, moved frequently, etc.), and I can definitely see the parallels between how I grew up and who I am today. Confronting those issues is still very painful and difficult for me, even with all the years since then. Yet I'm working with the C and being very open and confronting what I need to and not holding back. But this just CAN'T be all about me. Or at least that would be VERY surprising. And if I'm going to go through the pain of confronting all of my demons, for her to hold back and not do likewise just adds to the pain. I don't have a "vested interest" in seeing that she had an unhappy childhood, I just want her to invest as much of herself in this process as I am.
