What I noticed with my H was that even though he wanted me to know nothing about him and what he was doing, he still wanted to know everything that I was doing. He even tried right after the bomb to get me to open a business.
If you read others threads, you will see that we know they snoop, do things to create discord, check cell phone records, etc…
Things that will make you ask the very question of why is he doing this if he doesn’t want to be in my life anymore. It is very common.
I believe it serves two purposes. It gives them a sense that they are still in control of something (because they definitely do not feel that way) and I think the snooping is a way to add keep adding fuel to their fire of anger at us. They seem to want to know but also figure (many of them) that we are doing something we should not be, just like they are. It is projection.
FB, see if you can create an account with your screen name here if you don’t want your H to find it. Use an alternate email address, join the DB fanpage, and people will find you. Then after you have some friends, you can set your security settings high if you need to.
The alt is just another word for FB. Means alternate universe. But you will find it very worth joining. Let us know and people will start looking.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
