Glitter and sequin awards! I love it! We all should commit to give ourselves these. come on, gals, we do deserve it. We are fighting for our marriages - how many people have the strength, endurance, and compassion to do that?
Ah rocked ... you sound already over the blip so I'll just add this.
Good things, bad things, everyday things are going to happen to OP in all our sitches. It's not about karma, it's not about fairness, it's not even about your feelings ... coz guess what? It's not about you at all. That's right, OP is out of your collective lives.
Easier said than done of course, and you know what I mean when i say I struggle with it too. But aside from being something to be grateful for, it's just a reality one should happily embrace!
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
Something interesting... H was so supportive and loving yesterday. He could really see how that stupid award affected me. He seemed to feel genuine compassion for me. This morning he said to me, "why does it take something like that to show me how much I really do love you?" The ILY's have been pretty scarce, so that was music to my ears...
RW, Just caught up on your sitch a bit. You have come so far. Keep doing what works. Do your best to get past this blip, because that is what it appears to be. Good luck.
FWIW, I do agree with Deep's assessment. The best thing is to just put the OP out of our lives because whatever happens to them, whatever they do no longer has anything to do with our lives.
But I like to hold onto karma as a backup for those moments when I slip up.
Keep your chin up RW, you're doing great! It's still going to be a bumpy road for a while.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Hey Dane, nice to see ya on my thread! welcome...you can visit anytime you like...
Pearl....*sigh* I know. But, I'm with ya on hanging on to the karma idea...gives me some comfort.
Something I noticed today that brought me to tears. Was putting some clothes away in D13's room and noticed she has a pic of me on my wedding day taped on her mirror. No other pics there... not of friends, self etc. Just me in my wedding gown.
Kids don't know about the A. They know we were struggling and dad wasn't home much for quite a few months, then sat them down and said he was thinking of moving out. During this time D13 was clearly most affected. She would sleep with me often when her dad was sleeping in the spare room all those nights when he wouldn't come home til 1 or 2 a.m. (OMG just got triggered even writing about that nightmare time).
Anyway, *breathing deeply* when H re-commited he made sure to tell kids he wasn't going anywhere and things were better with us. Around then I noticed D13 looking throuh our wedding album and pointing out how much she liked that pic of me.
I think it is a symbol to her that things are better, more secure.
THAT, my friends is most definitely ONE of the many reasons I am going to keep fighting for this M, even though some days it is so hard....
