Hey all, rr22 - good point. He has found an IC he really likes whom he started seeing when he started in MC with me. I believe they are working on his anxiety/ mood issues. Thanks for the reminder that this can give me hope.
flowmom - I love that book, I'm going to check it out at the library tomorrow! I'm also working on my expectations/attitude when H comes around. It's weird because sometimes I can try to be as calm and pleasant as pie and he is just on a rampage. Other times, he is calm, and I'm all wound up with anxiety and fear. I'm trying to give H the benefit of the doubt lately - instead of being suspicious I'm acting "as if", instead of being hurt and rejected, I'm reminding myself he's making changes and he's still around, etc. Definitely helps. I think MWD talks about this too - it's the "AS IF" stuff. Act as if you're in a loving committed relationship, that your H loves and adores you, etc, and you won't walk in on the defensive. You'll be warmer.
EB - I've been catching up on your sitch. I think there is definitely hope for you guys but the irony is that you have to let go before she can come back. you're doing it! She has to know you're not her buddy or her sex pal when she's lonely. She'll get it. It takes a loooooooooooong time.
