snodderly, thanks for popping in and also for your reply, yes I am curious too because as you say wonders never cease, and this guy never fails to amaze me.
I am blown away by your latest turn of events. That is so unlike your ex, something is up, maybe guilt, maybe reconnection.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Thankyou for your replies Forward and Trusting. Forward I havent discussed mlc with son, son has worked out for himself all through this that there is something wrong with dad, and as they started talking last year one of sons comments was, " I do hope hes woken up" out of mouths of babes eh, he as also commented throughout about dads mood swings and him not being the same dad he was before, think in sons own world he as sussed something out. Trusting I would like to think it is start of reconnection but I would think it is guilt that is popping up, but we will see
I am gobsmacked, Mandy! Wait and see what happens, now, 'eh!?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Brandnewday, thanks for stopping by and also your reply, it means a lot to me to have my regulars on this board, even though we are approaching 5 years post bomb, lol, geez is it really that long ago
Forward yes it is a long time and that is only post bomb, I truly suspect if I looked at things properly that ex started going downhill into this when there were a few events happened in 2003, so that would actually make it more like seven years for ex, the events were like his beloved cousin dying and he thought a lot of her, then he was facing redundancy, and few other things that dont spring to mind just now but I think that was the start of it all, so in hindsight approaching seven years
Update on the ex, is the fact that his local bar needs someone to collect glasses for them tonight as it looks like it will be a busy night, so he as put son up for it to earn him some pocket money and get him a bit of work experience. He is also taking son to some place where he can actually have a go at driving a car, yes he is only 15 but is allowed to drive ex's car at this range and he thinks it will be worthwhile to let son have a go. ex's wifey has family that are in business so they are arranging for son to do 2 to 3 weeks work experience in there during the summer break. ex asked me last night to make a list of all dates that son will be available and unavailable, so unfortunately I have had to say about all my outings and holidays I have booked with son. Our big holiday this year will begin the eve of son's 16th birthday we actually land in turkey as he turns 16, wow cant wait, not sure if ex will like that though, tough, he hasnt been around for his last 5 birthdays so it shouldnt make that much difference, I also stated that son wont be available for a week in june due to the fact he is staying with my parents for a week whilst i go on vacation with my girlie friends, although I havent told ex any information on any of the above, i just merely gave him the dates, so at least he can see that we do get on with life and go places without him
