I don't really fit in 'divorced but not done' as I AM "done".
I'm copying & pasting my last post from WAS here... to provide a bit of context.
====== A lot has happened since I last posted.
I have taken a new job, moved to a new city .. many miles away from friends & family. D15 has decided to stay with StBX where she has friends & is just starting her freshman year. I support her in this choice, but am sad and miss her a great deal.
StBX also has not returned to IC, nor made appointments for us to see MC despite my requests he do so. In discussing this as well as the other marital issues over the past few months we came to a mutual agreement to stay married in name only for financial reasons (family business he runs & college financial aid for S19) and work on ourselves as well as prioritizing trust, emotional safety & the friendship.
Some conditions were put on that: if either of us wished to pursue a R with another we would D 1st... or if there were more physical violence, the D would be filed.
Sadly, the 2nd one materialized before the 1st one. We are seeking lawyers to finalize the agreement.. I"m moving my thread to "Surviving" and working to 'move along' with life.
=== And so here I am...
Do I buy drinks now or wait until the papers are signed?.. Or both?
Peace Bridge
There is never an excuse for physical or sexual abuse, if the man can't control himself and has no issues with physically harming you, the best thing to do for your safety was leaving.
You can start having a drink anytime, I'm glad you're safe now.
