I mentioned to my IC that one key initial concept was that you need to grieve over the 'hoped for marriage'
There have been concepts like that I pick and choose from. The whole concept of only staying for kids doesn't jive with me. Still, I found the book to have many points about why a D isn't the best solution to many issues.
My W said I can have space, but never lock the door. To me, space is freedom to restrict one's self, not restrictions imposed by others. Maybe he left thinking that space couldn't happen while still living at home. I REALLY want to move out - but I just can't imagine it will help me do anything but move further apart from my W. If only we could get our spouses DB!
