I'm now reading "Imperfect Harmony: How to say married for the sake of your children and still be happy".
One thing it deals with is the idea that our responses to our S can be a part of who we've become (ie affairs, etc).
It makes me wonder why he sees you as a good mother, but wants to get into so many affairs. Is it possible that he thinks it is normal or expected of him? It does NOT excuse that kind of behaviour, but I'm just thinking 'out loud' by typing~
