I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[pearlharbr]

I'm so happy to see you work through that. Thanks to Dudess because she articulated the individual points so well.

Stop thinking that you standing up for yourself is causing your H pain. It's simply not true. He chose this path. He was mistaken in thinking you would just roll over and give him whatever he wanted. That's his problem and his alone. Just keep saying he chose the actions so he chose the consequences. It really is that simple.

Part of me just doesn't care if he sees the changes... Its almost like I feel they are TOO GOOD for him to be able to enjoy them - like he dosen't deserve it.

And that is how you become the WAS. You ask yourself why would you want to chase after someone who doesn't want you? You accept that you deserve better than this. You accept that H has no more to give. That's ok. You will find someone who WILL treat you with respect and love and that person will deserve someone like you too.

Or to paraphrase gucci: "Men are a dime a dozen and I have a pocketful of dimes."