WAW now pregnant.....not mine

[MarkG]

Why on earth would I even CONSIDER anything but a D. The reason I say that is last night W came down to tuck in D at bedtime. She then cried and told me she wanted to come home. I told her I didn't think I could do that. She has a child coming and he/she isn't mine. She just said "I know".

As of now I'm still thinking a D is inevitable, but if I see a serious change in behavior and NO evidence of OM MAYBE I could reconsider. Am I freaking nuts or what?!?!

Pay attention to the 1st line of both of those paragraphs.
never + maybe.....

That's what I'm saying - the never is the pain coming out, the maybe is the love you still have for her. So what do you want to do? Is your W worth raising someone else's child? This is not a question to answer in your next post, it is a question to answer 2 or 3 or 6 months from now. In the meantime worry about other things that aren't related to the outcome of a possible D. Putting that decision in the back of your mind while you work on yourself will generally make that decision for you.

Call me stupid or whatever you want, but despite my W leaving in 2009 for the 2nd time, the 1st time being in 2006 when she came back pregnant with OM's child, I wouldn't have traded 2007 or 2008 for anything. The separation in 06 I had little if any blame in, and resolved that if she ever left again I'd never take her back. Here I am 3 years later, having made some of the mistakes this time, owning up to my share, and realizing I love her enough to overcome a D from another man the last time and all the other strings she's pulling right now.

So yes, there still is a decision to be made. I'm not going to judge you either way, I just want you to realize that raising a stepchild is not the end of the world even under these shitty circumstances.