Well - therapy isn't DBing, is it... yeah, I aired my feelings, but she responded with the "so my needs weren't important" argument. I'm not sure it was productive, but sure was a "safe place to express my feelings." Another opportunity to look emotional, and not acknowledge her feelings. Yippee.

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But there are some very obvious trends and very predictable patterns in sitchs.
Especially in this day of unlimited technology and connectivity.
I have to agree with Gucci, i saw it with my own eyes.


Yeah, I have too.
It's a weird scenario, they both talk about how much their lives suck. It's not a matter of him encouraging her - she just vents about how horrible everything is, how awful I am.

Still have the urge to call her, say something like, I'm sorry if that was harsh today. But I won't. Going to get something to eat and go play music with my buddy. I've got the boys for the weekend, I won't see her actually until Monday, she's leaving tomorrow afternoon to go on a trip with her mother, I pick them up at the neighbors.

I'm trying to believe that I'm not self-absorbed, I did the best I could. Yeah, I worked a lot. But like I said previously - we were supposed to be partners. I was bringing in the income.

You know what it is, I guess I'm just bitter right now that none of that changes. I still have to work to bring in the income, but she gets to walk away, she gets the house, she gets the greater percentage of time with the boys, its like I just get ejected from the family.

Without sounding like I'm going into a little-boy pouty self-righteous rant here... Yes, her needs were important. But - 6 months of stress that we were both going through - yeah, I want to be able to count on my partner to be resilient. We went to Hawaii in May, we had a great anniversary celebration in June - and yes, there were times where I was sick (yeah, last year's Valentine's day), I was tired, I needed to rest from work, etc. But for God's sake, say something like "I think we should go to counseling." Suddenly, you lose everything. I don't know, C pointing out that she's lost that loving feeling - I mean - really? How about the kids? How about the commitments? How about riding out the ups and downs? How about love is a decision?

Yeah, I'm ranting. I don't know what else to say, because honestly, it doesn't make any difference. I've thought these thoughts and talked this talk since late July.

I really meant what I said to her - that I'm so disappointed in her. But what the heck, I guess she'd say the same thing.

Crap, it's late. Gotta go. Sorry for the ranting guys, I guess just letting it lose. I feel pretty level, so that's OK.