Take a look at the stuff you come up with EVEN NOW, and ask yourself what the heck you want and what the heck you're doing.
I know...it's mean and spiteful.
I can and have owned up to things I did or didnt do that made her unhappy in the R, but it's not my fault that she didnt/doesnt want to work things out, nor is it my fault she has no family values and is only interested in making herself happy (even saying "so what, I'm supposed to stay and be miserable for D3?").
But after all that's been said and done, if this situation isnt going to work out the way I originally intended, I will not wish my ex well and hope she enjoys her new life and freedom with the OM.
To me that would be disrespecting myself and my feelings...as if I was saying "oh its ok that you lied to me, cheated on me, and broke up our family. All I care about is your happiness...go have a good life...I'll be ok."
I cant forgive her any easier than she can forgive me apparently...assuming she actually cares about any of the things I need "forgiven" for in her eyes.
