I really wish she would consider something like Retrouvaille. I think the big issue is that she doesn't consider her boss the OM. She's had a hard enough time admitting it to me, much less herself. She kept telling me how "nothing" happened and that it wasn't cheating, etc. Then I would stop her and tell her how she told me they made out and if I had done what she did, what would she call it? She would be quiet for a long time and then say "cheating".
Her aunt the nun, told me before she always thought my W suffered from low self-esteem. I actually went to her when all this happened to get my spiritual side straight.
Did your H show any of these signs of depression before he came back? Read on and you'll see what happened today.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
So today, we were both at our D's soccer practice. I was on the sidelines right there watching while she stayed way over in another field watching the game from afar. Later she came over and I walked over to where she had left her folding beach chair and brought it over to her to sit. She said "thanks" and then she turned quiet.
Every now and then I would look her way to see her reaction to my D playing. She didn't smile. Just looked tired. We went out to dinner together with the kids and we had a nice time.
She yawned a few times and I asked her what time she got up. She told me 4:30 a.m. so that she could come over to our house and watch our youngest D since she was off. I asked her why she got up so early since she knew she didn't have to come until 6:30. She just said she needed the time to "get ready" since she wouldn't have time to put on her makeup if she got up later. So I asked her where she went and she said nowhere. Just stayed at the sister's place.
Now she had all her makeup on. Why would she do all that just to go back home and not do anything. She has a tendency to do that. Get all dressed up, but just stay home.
Afterwards, I told her that I was thinking of making Valentine's Day dinner for our Ds since I had them that night. I asked if she would like to join us and she said 'okay'.
So now she's coming over the weekend. I figure I'll invite her to a few things but not all. The whole time we were out, I was genuinely happy. I mean I played with my Ds, I laughed and had a good time. Every now and then I caught her watching me. At one point at practice, I mentioned to her that my workplace had started a prayer group. She asked (in a cynical way) why we needed a prayer group. I just said there was a lot of stuff going on in people's personal lives that they just needed the support. And left it at that.
I should try throwing holy water on her and see if the demon inside her can be chased out.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I found out that my W's boss is retiring and she's in charge of his going away party. Do I confront her and tell her she's not allowed to go or I tell his W? Or should I just let it slide knowing that he's going to be gone in 3 weeks?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I haven't been following stuck, but why haven't you exposed to OMW before now? If you think it's the right thing to do then it should be done no matter what. If you havne't exposed because you don't think it's the right thing to do then it is also not the right thing to do as a punitive action.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
What good would it do at this point? He's leaving.
If my H would have told me that I "wasn't allowed" to go, and we were S at the time, I am sure I would have gone just to show him he couldn't boss me around. If she was still living under the same roof, then that would be different.
If she has continued to work with the man she had an A with....all this time, then why try to control her actions now? I think the way she will see it will be that if you can date then she can go to that party. I believe you will be cutting your nose off to spite your face and it will not help your stitch whatsoever.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
It just burns me that this POS is getting away and his poor W has no clue. This plus the fact that my W has done nothing but treat me like crap all this time and here she is planning his going away party.
Who knows, maybe she's planning to have a little "going away party" with just the two of them. I think all this swallowing crap has just built up in me.
I have half a mind to tell his wife and just let my W deal with the fallout.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
What good would it do at this point? He's leaving.
If my H would have told me that I "wasn't allowed" to go, and we were S at the time, I am sure I would have gone just to show him he couldn't boss me around. If she was still living under the same roof, then that would be different.
If she has continued to work with the man she had an A with....all this time, then why try to control her actions now? I think the way she will see it will be that if you can date then she can go to that party. I believe you will be cutting your nose off to spite your face and it will not help your stitch whatsoever.
