YOU are not sitting in secrecy and shame! What do YOU have to be ashamed of? Being strong? standing up for your marriage? Showing H the wonderful, deserving woman you are?
Even if she were awarded the Mother Theresa Award of the Millenium, you know and she knows in heart that she is not the person everyone thinks she is.
She goes to bed with that every night.
and you...go to bed with your H...
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process