V1olin's new life without wife

[hoosiermama]

So... see what happens sometimes when you finally drop the rope and ignore them?

A: They start thinking about you.

I think that's true in the majority of cases. It wasn't true in mine; when he walked, he stopped thinking about me and is quite happy. I coped much better with losing him than the collateral damage--losing my entire family except for D14, and most of my friends. That seems atypical too in its comprehensive effect on my life. I think it's him and his narcissistic personality disorder, and not just the typical alien WAH syndrome. Usually they look back a bit, or they blink, or they have doubts; mine never did.

[v1olin]

The need to stay out of court and save money is the main reason I did not get a 50/50 arangement. We settled outside of court and my wife just would not bend on that issue.

[v1olin]

Hoosier, my wife has not really looked back at all. She did not even care that I might be seeing other women.

[iwantittowork]

Same here v1olin.

No blink, no looking back, told me several times I should start dating or just go get l*id, and is happy to be rid of me.

I think we must proceed as if that is the case, and drop the rope, no matter what happens in the end, and focus on yourself, kids and that will help detach.

I still am working on this..

[v1olin]

I am FINALLY dropping the rope. I have told Gnosis that it is easy to be hung up on my wife because before this she was an amazing wife and mother. That is what I am soo sad to be losing. She is different now.

[Gnosis]

It's about time bro!

Your post on my thread had a tinge of resentment. That means you're still hung up on her a bit. Here's a tip for you to remember whenever that thought crosses your mind: "She is NOT worth it." .... she used to be .... but not anymore.

[iwantittowork]

I like that Gno, and I have been doing that as well.

You find you backslide every once in a while to 'I am not worth it' and have to course correct back.

We ARE worth it!

[v1olin]

thanks for that reminder Gnosis. I am not going to lie, I do still get pissed when I think about it all. I am only human.

[v1olin]

Well, well, wife changed the locks on our house without even a phone call to warn me. Not in a great mood right now. I have not called her yet so she does not know that I know. I called my lawyer and she said that it was legal for her to do it. My name is still on the mortgage but I signed the agreement. The agreement has not even been filed yet so it was a suprise that I was locked out already.


Now, I need to go to the house when she is there and split up the rest of our property. Any suggestions on how I should handle that? Trying to keep my anger in check.

[v1olin]

After talking to a friend I am going to wait until tuesday to talk about splitting property. Should give me time to calm down.