Just wanting to touch base after a bit of a gap can anyone advise me on h's affair in mlc, abandonment of the marriage but is still going strong with ow; a year later?
First-Did you take the fellowship at Harvard? That sounds like such an awesome opportunity for your daughter and yourself.
It does appear your M is in MLC......but I always wonder about him being previously married. Much like cheating...I think that divorce could be easier after the first one and that line is crossed. It could actually be he was in MLC during the initial marriage, was still in it basically when he married you, and continues to be in it. There is talk on psyche boards about certain people never actually getting out of the MLC tunnel.....your previous posts really make me wonder about that.
My advice would be to totally focus on you and your daughter....if he comes back so be it. Reclaim your life and show your daughter how a proud and strong woman can live and prosper.
A year is not a long time for MLC, it can take up to 5-10 years from what I read.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Thanks everyone. Yes, my D8 and I are currently in Harvard. I took the case to court and won it. We are here till mid July. My H is bombarding me/D8 with phone calls/texts and wanting to Skype from OW house. My D8 is distressed. I am now told that I have to facilitate Skype under these conditions. My h is calling OW his partner in legal documents and has just given up his apartment and has moved in with her. does anyone have any experience of someone being in MLC but seeming to be happy, fulfilled etc. My H shows no remorse, even still; just determined to win.
Is a year a long time for H to be partners with OW?
IH, Yes, I relate to your situation. X is still w/OW. He has shown flashes of remorse over that time, but nothing else. I have also gotten flashes of their relationship.
-She calls if he is here two seconds longer than he "should" be. -There were no pictures of them together. -He orders her around. He left his phone on and my answering machine recorded their conversation. -In a moment of X drama, he said he would marry her. I suppose it's possible but something tells me the longer things drag on, the more reality intrudes and the less likely it will be. I hope so, anyway. I keep hoping OW will just disappear.
I also think they now have intertwined finances, so separating from her would be difficult, and I have a hard time imagining X living by himself.
So. Three years is a long time. Has it been three happy years? Something tells me not. It is not the sort of relationship that I would want and if that is what he wants, I am certainly better off without him!
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Three years is a long time. Has it been three happy years? Something tells me not. It is not the sort of relationship that I would want and if that is what he wants, I am certainly better off without him!
Very insightful and true Forward.....just something that comes with time in this world.
