Jack...I really like that 4:35 post. To the point and so true.
E-As you will eventually learn...in your current marriage or another....there is no success in marriage. Success really means that you have reached an end goal....were as marriage is a continual work in progress. Go into your past...you can probably say that you didn't work on your relationship constantly. Then go look on the piecing board and see how much work they put into their marriages daily. Then go visit a long time married old couple.....and you will see that they to are still working on their relationship. To love some one, especially unconditionally, is a verb and not a noun. An action which we must express and hopefully get in return.
One other point that is purely to you Eric. You mention housework. I had illusions of what it took to maintain a household. Yeah I helped out by mowing the lawn, occasionally cooking or cleaning....but those are illusions. When I took over the housework completely....I was keeping busy to help her...as weeks turned into months I realized just how tiring maintaining a house is. After years of it...I am burnt out from it, but I have been doing it on my own for myself. The added bonus is that I now know what it takes to be the one maintaining the house and no longer do I live in the illusion that I was pulling enough weight. So I say embrace it all...live like she isn't there (Don't take care of her stuff...make dinner, but that is it and NO special dinners for her) and do it all. At worst you will feel a moment of achievement and at best you will gain an understanding.
