Trying to move on

[ClingingToHope]

Drew. No. I'll wait to see what my lawyer says but my contention will be that we essentially have joint physical custody right now when you factor everything in. The problem is if it comes down to a judge, judges in my county apparently don't order joint physical custody. They pick one parent or the other.

I guess tomorrow we'll talk about what bargaining chips I have to get her to agree to JPC so we don't have to spend thousands fighting it out.

Mishka, in Illinois the child support laws are cut-and-dried. If she wins sole physical custody then I owe her 28 percent of my net income every two weeks. That's $430 even though I essentially have them half of the time.

The only way it's less is if we come to our own agreement or she agrees to joint physical custody. In the second case, by law I wouldn't owe her child support. We'd just split expenses. I offered a couple of weeks ago about $240 every two weeks in child support plus splitting insurance premiums, daycare and summer camps.

I still would have ended up giving her $310 to $365 every couple of weeks. But at least I'd save $125 to $175 every two weeks.

She agreed as long as she could get the house thing taken care of. I'm not exactly sure what happened with the house, but I have my suspicions.