I dealt with a lot of anger/criticism from H before the S, and it was also being directed to my children, which was super disturbing. I know the feeling of walking on eggshells. I think the rage/anger was part of what drove H to move out...he didn't want to be that person any more.
Your H has to stop his angry behaviours because it's toxic, and I'm glad that that's being addressed in your MC.
Something I read in one of the books struck me though. How when I am expecting my H to be in an angry or bad mood (justifiably!), I unconsciously tense up. Instead of coming home to a smiling, relaxed partner me who is open and curious, H was coming home to a tense, frowning, closed, avoiding me. I was walking on eggshells, but it was self-perpetuating because I didn't give him a reason to be in a good mood and I didn't look happy to see him.
The how to improve your R book recommends this one if you're dealing with a lot of angry behaviours in M: You Don't Have to Take it Anymore
Last edited by flowmom; 02/11/1010:35 PM.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
