Doing the right thing, acting the right way, taking the high road and choosing not to engage in controversy just to win...none of these things destroy.
If there is a hope inside of you that your ex will come out of her fantasy and one day want to try to restore what the two of you once had, all you really want to do right now is make sure that you don't destroy.
You don't have to give in. You don't have to let her have her way. You don't even have to hold back from decisions that you think might upset her, as long as you feel ok about the decisions being right and necessary.
Just don't destroy.
All the rest is up to whatever life sends your way. And her way.
My ex-father in law was divorced from my ex's mother for about a year. They eventually remarried, AFTER the mother finished going through all her crap. They remained married until she passed away.
It does happen.
The present is all about you making the most of what you've got. Live a life that you will look back on fondly.
It seems that over and over again, you will find on this board that eventually the future of the relationship winds up being in the hands of the spouse who was left behind. And it usually comes at a time when that spouse has moved so far forward that it's a genuine struggle for them to decide if they want to go back there or not.
Blessings,
bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
