I don't want to see him - he KNOWS how good I look because people keep telling him. . . . - not seeing him helps me deal. Every time I see him I revert back to the me who missed him horribly when he left - I still love him, I'm still attracted to him
I do understand why it might be best for your peace of mind not to see him. That's why I asked if you are done.
Being told how good you look does not carry the same impact as him experiencing your beauty and intoxicating fragrance. An email doesn't pack the wallop of watching you being self-assured and moving on, as you hurry off to meet who knows who, for God knows what? (You've studied gucci haven't you?)The feelings you get when you see him may be the feelings he gets when he sees the 'new' you. Consider picturing that vignette in your mind. You might find you can do it, (or that it makes you feel good even if you don't do it).
You are totally right about you being in the morally superior position here. I just don't think it will make you particularly attractive to point it out right now. (if you would like him to be attracted to you)
need to make it clear to him that there is not way I'm filing jointly. PLUS why would I sit down and talk to him nicely when he's having an affair - I don't owe him any time at all since he's giving all his time to his whore.
We don't have a joint option where i live so i don't understand that but obviously good counsel says not the way to go. Here, people routinely negotiate/mediate divorces even though it is Mrs. vs Mr. I guess people do that for the same reason any two parties in a lawsuit negotiate a settlement - to get a better deal overall. Doesn't mean you don't hate the other side's guts.
