I agree with LR - you get the award for best woman! You have been through an incredible amount, your H realizes this and values you, loves you, we all support you. She is nothing. Crappy human beings get public prestige all the time - just look at our politicians.
But it's what is inside that counts. And you've got that mojo!~ It's nice that H confirmed that a lot of people have issues with her.
Your H was amazing!!! I mean, he was so reassuring and supportive that's all you should focus on. I have similar dreadful stories to share and I know how much such a thing can hurt your confidence but in the end, he chose YOU. Dont forget that. (()) K
That's ok, knowing her caliber, she probably just f*cked a couple people to get it...
****exclaimer**** meant to be humorous
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M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
I can understand how that would triggering! Sometimes we just have to write our own story. I vote for you to make an award...for yourself! "rockedworld is rocking DB" and add lots of glitter and sequins. Give it to yourself privately accompanied by music and champagne.
I'm giving you advice that I should follow myself. So many of my victories over the last few years are ones that society wouldn't celebrate or acknowledge. But I did those things and they weren't easy and they are the accomplishments of my life. I fail to celebrate them because others don't.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I can only imagine how you must feel to be confronted with her image in the news etc. But, it is important to distingush between OW as the "homewrecker" and OW as someone who may be good at what she does a a profession (if that is the case). She is not getting the award for her morals. As others have said , you are getting the award that matters. And your H is being very supportive. I like that.
I know a medical professional who is at the top of her game, great personality, her patients just love her and she would be deserviong of any award she could get in her field. I know this personally. But I found out recetly that she is involved with a married man. That shocked and disappointed me . So you see what I am saying? I know you know there is a distinction between the personal woman and the professional woman. It still hurts, right? I can only imagine.
Not sure if what I have said helps and it is easy for me to say it from afar.
YOU are not sitting in secrecy and shame! What do YOU have to be ashamed of? Being strong? standing up for your marriage? Showing H the wonderful, deserving woman you are?
Even if she were awarded the Mother Theresa Award of the Millenium, you know and she knows in heart that she is not the person everyone thinks she is.
She goes to bed with that every night.
and you...go to bed with your H...
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
This has got to be the best support group on the planet... or at least in cyberspace!
You are all so right, and I am letting the words sink in.
Hehehe...June, don't worry I took it humor, although you could very well be right! Flowmom, I like the idea of giving myself an award... I just might do that.
Everyone... you are so right about focusing on how great my H was about this, and he was. And, Aver...so true that it is me he will be snuggling up with tonight and every night...that is what counts!
You are all amazing, fabulous women! We ALL deserve awards!
Rocked - OW will get a piece of wood or fancy certificate to hang on her wall that will collect dust and fade over time. You got a M back and a R with the man you love that has the opportunity to grow stronger over time. I have an office full of awards right now that I am looking at, and I would trade everyone one of them right now for what I really want in life.
Bet OW feesl the same way. This might be a painful reminder to her of what she doesn't have...it would be to me. I was recently nominated for an award and I was praying to God every day that I didn't win, cause I didn't want it...luckily I didn't get it...so if she feels like I did, then this actually sucks for her.
Hold your head high, stay away from the place she gets it and any press clippings over it, and celebrate what you have which is better and more important.
PS - how do i find you on the alt?
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M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
