What I was suggesting is that when you make comments about your sitch and the way you feel... or the way you interpret David's feelings, he might respond to those and give you an idea of whether you're on track or not. And it's his opportunity to clear up some misconceptions if there are any.

For example, you said the following things in your post:

I think David is still undecided on whether he wants his own thread or not and according to a friend from the bb I did overkill on trying to make it clear to him that I am not pushing him in any direction on that decision.

David - do you feel what Pam is saying is accurate? Do you have anything to add here that further explains the situation from your point of view?

I think more than likely the slowing down of things would be good for David and mines communication. We do a little bit of emails and I have I think, David could say, gotten much better and taking lots of time with them and really trying to be clear when I write.

David - do you agree that slowing down of things like communication between the two of you is good? Do you think that the communcation and interaction has slowed down? Do you feel that the two of you have gotten better at taking time with your thoughts and being clear about them? Is there anything else you'd like to add here to clarify the sitch?

I think even our IM's and phone conversations have slowed the pace down a bit and we both do more thinking before responding. I still have a long ways to go I know. But I am much better at seeing it when I mess up now and apologizing.

David - do you feel that Pam is better at recognizing when she messes up and apologizes for it? Is there anything you want to add here?

-Calystra