Anyway, had a good long think about this thread in the car on the way home.
Yeah, you're all correct in that I need to work further on my communication skills, but then I already knew that. I guess I came onto this forum for the wrong reasons: I did all my DBing seven years ago and make huge changes at the time. I'm not really interested in spending the rest of my life trying to change to accomodate other people. What I really wanted to hear was that my ex-wife also needs to work on her communication skills. Instead, however, I've obviously got a bunch of DBing responses where it's entirely down to me and there's no such thing as bad behaviour on her part. Fair enough, I guess, given the forum I'm on.
Most of you have grasped what I was talking about but a few of you seem to have just read the text conversation and entirely missed the point behind it.
Some of you will have seen my other thread in which the pretty much universal response was don't go there.
I've decided now I'm not going to. When she gets back from Greece I will tell her the reasons why: too much bad history to get over and too many problems to sort out. Just not worth the effort. This board has at least helped me to make that decision.
I thank you all for your responses and I genuinely wish you all the best for the future.
Gypsy: Thanks for your great posts they really helped.
