The Quickest Divorce on record--was it a mistake?

[Bworl]

I think it's perfectly normal to still be processing the loss of your marriage.

Trust me when I tell you that your lawyer was most likely correct. You are far better off having done it quickly, especially when your wife was desperate to be done. If there is future reconciliation in the cards for the two of you, being divorced won't stop it from happening.

Meanwhile, you need to take as long as you need to go through all the different feelings you are having. A long term marriage that suddenly ends is probably as traumatic as the death of a loved one. There is no shame in struggling with thoughts/emotions.

Personally, I wouldn't spend much time pondering your wife and her activities. It sounds as though she is deep into her fantasy life right now. Treat her respectfully and professionally, regardless of how she feels about it. There is nothing mean about being business-like. Your relationship is different now.

If you are anything like I was, being friends with an ex-wife is just not something that can happen. I make my goal to be "friendly" with my ex, and for the most part we seem to be able to do that. Fortunately, I don't see mine very often, so not much of an issue.


Anyways, sorry for what you've been through, but I think you've made out well given all that has transpired. There are many on this board right now who would almost kill to have the clean break with favorable conditions that you got.


Live your life. Let it unfold as it will.


Blessings,

Bill