She has drug her feet following through with it. So I guess what I am saying is: besides the fear I have of her (as you say)and besides the risk of coming out of this without a place to live - forcing my way back into our apt brings the biggest risk of sending her over the edge and straight to filing for the divorce. From previous vibes I have received from her that seems very likely.
So I guess you need to decide if you want to remain married to a woman who would be "sent over the edge" and would "go straight to filing for divorce" if you calmly exercised your right to live in your own home.
I know what I would do.
Puppy
P.S. Some people tend to be very compliant and "nice" when they have you under their thumb, and you're doing everything you need them to do, even if it's at your own expense. Something to consider, perhaps.
