When do you request your spouse end an EA?

[MrBond]

Okay first off. She did not say she would date other men and neither did anyone recommend she do so. It's stated that she should go out and have fun. If her WAH believes she is seeing someone, that's his problem.

Right now he's had a free pass to cheat. She's done the same thing for awhile and has produced ZERO results. So you do something different.

You can't predict what logic the WAS uses to justify their bad behavior. But I can guarantee you that they tend to believe the worst in the LBS. You have no control over that.

DBing is about "solution" based strategies. And if one thing doesn't work, then do something else. In many cases the WAS needs to feel a sense of loss or hit rock bottom before they realize the LBS was the one for them.

I am all for exposing the A. And that's number one what she should do.

However, she also has to show her worth and value to him. For guys it's sexual. Plain and simple. He could care less if she's smart or witty. Guys equate a woman's value to her sexuality. From her sexuality comes desirability.

Once she has established her desirability, she has to get him to the point where he wants he so badly that he would do anything to get her back. That's when she establishes the rules of going to C, better communication, etc. But you have to start with some chips before you can gamble like that. And that's all she's doing. Earning chips.