Delboy - thank you...i do agree with Cbart not sure I get it but appreciate the time you took to pass it on.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
will continue to try and detach but man this is not for the soft at heart. I mean I'm living with someone who shows no emotion or provides any intamacy.
We have all been where you are. And it is HARD! That is why we are here to give you advice. That is why you must detach. It is to protect you. It is also to give your W space to work on her own problems. You can not fix them, only she can.
Hard is an understatement. The hardest part for me is managing my anxiety. Perfect example on my tread today. Think it took me two hours and two nudges to get me back on track.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
Thanks C-Bart - can you do me a favor and send me the link to your sitch. Our W's are the same age so I wonder what else we have in common. Please check in on me from time to time - trust me I can use the support.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
OP - I'm trying dude - trust me I am trying. Thanks I will post again tomorrow.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Trap - thanks. I just do not know what else to do. I mean I am not suppose to talk about R issues, I cannot try and win her back - I simply can do nothing but try and GAL; however, I have now assumed all of the household duties. Today is her day off and she will not be home to make dinner (apparently she is going out again). I really understand that she needs to find herself but when is enough enough. Okay I vented.. I really getting to my wits end here.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Your W's behavior is pretty standard fair unfortunately. Crazy thing is it has little to with sex in most cases. Just a need to be wanted driven by insecurity. Knowing that doesn't make it any easier to deal with though.
Like Trapt said, you need to decide (not today) if you have the stomach for this. It truly is as close to hell as you will get.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
As far as doing ALL the household duties go, I've been there and I know exactly how you feel.
It's extremely tough, most of us have been where you are.
Do for you and your children, leave her household duties for her to do. Let her fend for herself when it comes to food, laundry or whatever else. Just don't do it in a spiteful way.
