Thank you for your response. It seems unananimous with the notable exception of my Mother.
I'm waffling on when I should ask before the D is final or after. I guess my thinking is asking before would reinforce my W desire to end it which doesn't appear to need much reinforcement but asking after may make it harder to retieve. Os so I think. I just don't know.
M48/W47 M15/T22 S3 D3 In House Separation 10/06/09 W files for D 10/16/09 OM1 discovered 10/28/09 (PA) OM2 in mix early Jan. W moved out 1/26/10 In Mediation (Settlement in prep)