I moved out before I knew about the EA/OM. Had I of know about him I would have never moved out. I realize my moving out was pandering to her, but at the time I didn't know it would not help the situation.

What you guys are telling me to do seems so counter productive and risky - BUT I LIKE THE IDEA. I'm just having a hard time seeing only a short term blow back here.

I had to have her co-sign for the apt I'm in now- I'm basically living off of school loans.

If I did what you guys are telling me:

I'd have to give a 60 notice (and a chuck of $) to break the lease I have for the apt I'm in now. Force my way back in over there. Then what if she moves out? I'm guessing that we both have to agree in order to end our lease over there? I dunno. But for sure I can't afford that place by myself and there is no guarantee she will continue to pay the rent there. She sticks around great - if not then I'm stuck without a place to live.


Me-32
W-29
No kids
ILYBNILWY 11.20.09
Separated 01.10.10
Discovered EA 01.13.10
W admitted to PA 02.21.10
I filed for D 03.09.10