i only have a sec mb28 but i would not confront OW with a letter, phonecall, etc. if you contact her it only elevates her importance in your marriage, your world, your husband's world. she is a symptom of the problem but not the problem. regardless of what you say to her she will take it to mean that she is important and SHE IS NOT!! don't focus on her...she is really small in the overall big picture.


Me: 28
H: 32
1st marriage 4 both
1 1/2 year married
2gether for 9
1S: 6months
1stepson: 2yo