OK... I am just trying to breathe, and I need some help with perspective here.
I just found out that OW is getting a very public, very prestigious award for her work with AA and helping people. This is a community service award that gets publicized very broadly in the geographical area we live in... newspapers, TV interviews etc.
I am in shock, I am shaking....
How can there be any justice in this world? This adulteress get public acknoweldgement as this wonderful person while I sit in secrecy and shame and I AM INNOCENT??????
I am seriously crashing to a dark place emotionally. I am struggling....
Somebody help me see there is something to hang on to here.
But, tell me, were you or someone you were close to up for the award? If the answer is no, FORGET ABOUT IT AND MOVE ON... If the answer is yes, well, that just sucks, and what would it accomplish by doing something about it?
YOU know what a sh*tty person she is/was... YOU know how you have persevered and almost single-handedly saved your marriage... YOU are the rock in all of this. Don't crumble. Be strong, shine, and IGNORE THE HELL OUT OF IT!
You've chosen to forgive your H. Remember that. Don't let it haunt you.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Thanks Mind. No, no one I know was up for the award. I hear what you are saying, just feel so defeated by this. I really am crashing, can't seem to pull out of the nose dive...
Rocked, MF is right. Don't give her control over your emotions.
You know that you are the better person. H knows you are the better person. Hold onto the belief in karma because it will come around and get her.
I wish I had something else that would help. I know it's going to be rough seeing her face and hearing her name everywhere. Maybe just go into a media lockdown if possible. I do that when there's a big movie coming out and I don't want to see the trailers or hear any reviews before I see it.
Sending hugs. Just vent here as much as you need.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
She might get the award but you can sit there knowing that you are ten times the woman she is and she will never be anything but in your shadow! I keep meaning to say what a beautiful photo you have on your alt, your H really should realise what a lucky guy he is, having someone as special as you fight for his hand in marriage.. Quite frankly she isnt worth wasting one jot of your brain space or breath on hun!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Just talked to H on the phone. He didn't know, I only just found out b/c I saw it online on a website I was checking for work reasons. He was shocked and said he actually thinks there might be some people who make anonymous calls to protest the award b/c he says he knows enough to know a lot of people have a lot of issues with her... for a lot of reasons....
He reminded me of karma too, and was very supportive.
I feel a little better...
You are great friends.
Mind, you even made me chuckle.... Can't go on the alt at work but will check in there later tonight.
She might get the award but you can sit there knowing that you are ten times the woman she is and she will never be anything but in your shadow! I keep meaning to say what a beautiful photo you have on your alt, your H really should realise what a lucky guy he is, having someone as special as you fight for his hand in marriage.. Quite frankly she isnt worth wasting one jot of your brain space or breath on hun!
Thank you Rabbit! Much needed ego boost. You are a good friend.
Rocked - wow, it must be hard to hear about OW in the news but I think that it is great that your H is being supportive. Don't waste your energy thinking about it. It is not worth it. Put that energy into YOU and do something for YOURSELF tonight - take a relaxing bath, read a book, watch a good movie. ((hugs))
