That's your call. It's SO much a part of the "normalization" that people in affairs try to accomplish in the relationships around them, but I had to tell my wife that, if she chose to end our marriage this way (by cheating on me, lying about it to me and our family, and then CUTTING AND RUNNING and not even TRYING to work on the marriage), that I had absolutely ZERO INTENTION of remaining her friend, much less her BEST friend(which is what she wanted). Friends simply don't do that to each other, and I'm not really sure why people would think it's any different if the person is their ex-wife/husband.
Well, this shook her up pretty badly, and she told me later that it was one of the biggest reasons she reconciled with me: she missed our friendship. Those that continue to offer this key marital benefit, even while their spouses are cheating on them, I believe miss out on a VERY powerful tool.
I wish you had offered this tidbit in my thread when I first got here...I think it might have been good incentive.
So was it just you saying it that shook her up, or did you go dark on her w/no contact as well? How long was it between when you stated that to her and when she finally came around...and what did you do in between the two that you felt made yourself a better person?
