I am resentful, and Coach's description is pretty accurate. The thing is that I have addressed the things that I am resentful over. At the time W's hurtful, disrespectful, inconsiderate, downright, mean actions seemed justified to her.
As part of my efforts to "stop doing what isn't working" I have made a point to not tell her what a headcase she has been and how much she has hurt me. It hasn't gone well when I have tried to address these things in the past. Either way, at this point she knows what she has done and I think is starting to get the ramifications of it. She still doesn't seem to think she has any control over herself or our situation though. By listening to her, you may think she is a real victim for "not feeling the way she should feel" about her husband.
She seems to have pulled back a little after coming over the other night.
S8 had a snowday from school yesterday. I had him the nifty before so I took a vacation day from work and we had a great day together. I spoke with W at one point in the afternoon and she was so bored and lonely. She never asked to hang out with us though. It's almost like she wants to suffer.
She still seems to have the "it's just not meant to be, why fight it" attitude.
Sometimes I am so ready to just be done and let her go. I still have times that I miss her. What kind of a massochist am I?
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
