Yes. I get it. It's ok. Like I said, I know I have a lot of work to do. I think I'm just crashing because I just KNEW my H would NOT push for D. The eternal optimist in me??? Or the idiot??? I know I've wasted a lot of time. But I hope, with a lot of help, I can move forward, work on myself and be better in the end. --------
OP - I've seen reference to alt----but don't know what that is...40.60?? FB??
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think we even begin to rewrite part of our own history and wear the rosecolored glasses ourselves when it comes to the true state of our Marriage before the bomb.
I know that I have at times added a little rose tint to my memory----but at it's worst, really, it was not THIS/DIVORCE bad.
But---I know that doesn't matter. I must accept this reality. I'm anxious to read some of your threads. 8 kids - wow! I guess I REALLY need to stop feeling sorry for myself!
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Several months ago I accidentally signed up for FB mobile on my phone. Just curious. Didn't realize that I was sending "friend requests" to everyone in my contact list that had FB. Didn't know H was on.....needless to say he did not accept my request. After learning he had one (seeing what requests went out), I tried to look a couple times-----and all of a sudden he was no longer a member................do I need to join?
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
So....I get a text from H asking if girls can pitch after school. I answer that they both had plans right after, but maybe later. He says no problem will try for tomorrow and then gives me an update on biz/lack of $$ at firm---but expecting $$ soon. I ask if he has W-2 yet. He answers "yes." I push it and send another asking about funding of the HSA that we pay medical expense and specifically D13's ortho out of. No answer. Things I need to know.............and will not push, except for W-2 if I don't have it by end of March. I wish I knew how I could go completely NC when there's so much to do with kids.....
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
You will not be able to go completely NC w/him because you do have children that need to be considered. I think you handled the conversation well about the scheduling and the W-2.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
