I concur--Option #. Keep it smooth. It is a different approach, from what I have read of your thread.
It helps me in thinking about my house sitch: a nasty fight would be just what he expects of me. Controlling, angry, bitter. But a smooth and gracious response--as long as it is peppered with "this will help so much in my great new life!" Now that would be different.
I am so glad that the convo went as well as it did. It is so good to hear the progress you are making on ACCEPTING what is. You are well on your way to peace and healing.
I think you mentioned meeting up before you leave the E.Coast for W. Coast? I am in VT--contact me in the alt?
I wish I could meet with ALL of you fabulous people in person!
And I think LFA and I are twins separated at birth--another woman who doesn't like chocolate??!!
Be well, HHH. Recognize the strength you have gained.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
