Wife wants best of both worlds

[Cie la vie]

I understand the M was broken but this in no way justifies her (or his) behaviors, right?

No. Plain and simple she had an affair and the OM was open to it as well, it is wrong. My W didn't give a damn about my feelings when she started her affair and OM1 according to my W told her she should wait until the D was final to hook up. Smart on his part it made her think he was soooo nice. Two weeks later she flew out to be with him and completed torching the marriage.

She has agreed to all of my requests: He is not to attend any kids functions when I am present for a year; he is not to be left alone with the kids for a year or unitl we agree upon it; and I get the right of first refusal.

I thought about bringing this stuff up in mediation but the bottom line is how do you enforce it and what if anything can you do if they just don't honor it. The fact that my W was capable of doing what she did while we were married leads me to believe she isn't going to have any problem not honoring verbal agreements like these that have not teeth. Look how your W handled the into to the kids, she disregard your request and did it her way. I don't see that changing in the future for either of us.

But remember were the selfish ones.

Has your wife at any point shown any emotion toward the dissolving of the marriage or is she just whistling dixie? Mine seems to be quite content or she has simple numbed herself to the pain. I just don't know.