I asked him for insight to the lying recently and he alluded to wanting to be able to control my opinions/views of him and his opinions/views of himself.
I think there is a lot of truth in that statement. I know my H has been trying to "reinvent" himself and this is probably at least part of the reason.
In the long run, lying isn't easier because then you have a tangled web and you have to figure what you said to who and not get your stories mixed up. Craziness! I do find the lying highly annoying and have to really try to detach. It is hard because it is a behavior I don't tolerate in my kids but have to ignore in an adult.
It is funny because every once in awhile I may ask a casual question about work and I and just SEE his mind work for a bit to decide whether to tell the truth or not. Once recently I asked him something which I already figured the answer to and was going to be a pill and call his BS if he lied. Fortunately, he didn't.
