Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Sandi - there is no way W will go on trip without computer and right now, she is looking at late March.

I'm not sure what to think about the trip. If she stays with her dad as she currently claims, there is no way that she would have him over/around (and it would raise serious red flags if she doesn't stay with dad and I'd have to ask why would we spend the money on hotel rooms). But if she takes that one night in San Diego, would he fly there for one day/night (he's about a 19 hr drive from there, so you'd think he'd need to fly)?

Sandi/Rabbit: thanks for the thoughts on V-day. I'm not overly worried about it, honestly just sick of hearing all the commercials about it. I think I'll find a plain card, no mush at all, and then play it by ear on whether or not I actully feel like giving it to her. Your right sandi - she won't get me anything.

Not sure what to think/make out of the last two days - friendly, chatty, opened up a little. Heck last night, we talked back and forth laying in bed for about 5 minutes and she initiated the talking...that is way out of character. The norm has been she gets in bed, turns on her side to face away from me and then silence until I eventually say goodnight to her.