Wholeagain, part 2

[avermont]

It's funny, because I normally have a very hot temper. Fly right off the handle.

Maybe the constant anxiety takes away the energy I have to be angry?

But anyhow, I do sympathize. It is SO hard to find that .0001 split second between the thing that is making you angry and BEFORE you blow up to do all the mind-tricks that we all read about and hope to put into practice.

I can say that I have gotten a LOT better at controlling my anger over the years, so I can say that it IS possible. Took a lot of looking at my triggers, practicing taking a deep breath, and a LOT of apologizing to folks that I had just snapped at.

I still do lose it at customer service reps/phone jail stuff.

Find that .0001 split second---grab it, count it, breathe it....then respond calmly. You can do it!