I just found a Buddhist-mindfullness-CBT-and EMDR therapist local. Where was she 4 months ago??
I will meet with her next Tuesday, just as a prelim meeting. Then she is going on vacation until APRIL--aaahh!
But, I can go see C #1 in the meantime. She was very soothing to talk to; didn't watch the clock; took my statements and turned them around for me to look at from a different perspective.
But the bartender trick will work for those after-work therapy sessions!
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process