I too was in the situation before my H's MLC began where I had lost myself and my identity was way too tied to my H. That is really one truly good thing from all of this - I am slowly starting to find myself again outside of my identity as a wife and mother. It takes time but can be done. For me is has been a very slow process as I don't have a lot of time for myself with working, basically being a single parent, etc. but it has been worth the effort!
