I appreciate your feedback but it doesn't help if people don't read the post properly and mix up the central issue. The central issue is not necessarily the contents of the text conversation it's the fact that she thinks I should have to guess her decisions.
I'll leave you with this thought, since you've now used this word in two or three posts here.
There is no "proper" way to communicate with your spouse, or even with others. We come across as we come across, whether that is our intent or not.
In other words, "perception is reality." If your wife says "You're not hearing me," then that is a GIFT she has given you, a key to her heart. It may seem to you to be unreasonable, illogical, and that she's "not hearing YOU 'properly'," but it is a key nonetheless.
I'd texted her the day before and she took about six hours to reply. No problem, figured she was busy. Sent her a text the following early afternoon just asking how she was and what her plans were for today. She never replied. I then sent this in the evening.
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My main point is that all of this was communicated AFTER she had decided to ignore my text.
So this was a problem for you or not?
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she had decided to ignore my text.
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She then seemed to think
So you know what she is thinking? How's that working for you?
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I am saying she should simply comunicate this to me at the time I texted in a straight-forward and adult manner.
She was very clear. You made assumptions and had expectations of what you would have done. My prior post was right on the money. You didn't listen to what I said either.
She was very clear - when asked. If somebody decides not to reply to my text messages, I expect them to be an adult and inform me rather than expect me to guess.
You are deliberately evading what I'm trying to say.
You are deliberately evading what I'm trying to say.
Mind reading, Dude. Maybe it's you with the communication problem.
What response from her would have made sense for you?
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She was very clear - when asked. If somebody decides not to reply to my text messages, I expect them to be an adult and inform me rather than expect me to guess.
Sorry that made me laugh...If you think she was ignoring you why would you think she would tell you?
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I appreciate your feedback but it doesn't help if people don't read the post properly and mix up the central issue. The central issue is not necessarily the contents of the text conversation it's the fact that she thinks I should have to guess her decisions.
I'll leave you with this thought, since you've now used this word in two or three posts here.
There is no "proper" way to communicate with your spouse, or even with others. We come across as we come across, whether that is our intent or not.
In other words, "perception is reality." If your wife says "You're not hearing me," then that is a GIFT she has given you, a key to her heart. It may seem to you to be unreasonable, illogical, and that she's "not hearing YOU 'properly'," but it is a key nonetheless.
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I heard what she was saying dude. My issue was when she decided to say it.
I think you guys on here have all become too used to making excuses for WAWs.
If somebody who you regularly exchange texts with (and either of you initiate) decides to suddenly ignore them without informing you in an adult way, this is rude and childish.
You are totally right. She's completely in the wrong.
Is that the answer you're looking for?
Anyone can write what they think/know you want to hear. And many times that happens in a marriage which leads to serious communications issues.
And a lot times it comes down to simple statements that are hard to say..
It hurt my feelings. I'm not sure of what to do. Are you going to be pissed if I don't do what I think you want me to.
Honesty... easily said, tougher to do.
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Not looking for a wrong or right, looking to how communication can be improved. I'm damn sure I need to improve mine but all these people making excuses for my ex-wife ignoring my texts like a child are missing the point. SHE needs to learn to communicate properly as well. You're all used to doing anything to get your spouses back on this board. I'm not prepared to put up with bad behaviour from her.
She was very clear - when asked. If somebody decides not to reply to my text messages, I expect them to be an adult and inform me rather than expect me to guess.
Sorry that made me laugh...If you think she was ignoring you why would you think she would tell you?
She wasn't 'ignoring me', simply made a decision to not return texts to save money. A decision that any sensible adult would communicate at the appropriate time without expecting people to guess.
