I'd texted her the day before and she took about six hours to reply. No problem, figured she was busy. Sent her a text the following early afternoon just asking how she was and what her plans were for today. She never replied. I then sent this in the evening.
ME: Would you rather I didn't text you? x
HER: Why you say that? Just costing loads this holiday now worried about extra costs. In bar now x x i like to hear from you xx
ME: Cos you took about six hours to reply yesterday and didn't bother replying to text I sent this afternnon. Obviously I won't bother if you're so busy x
HER: You being shitty? x
ME: Lol, no just saying if you're not going to reply to texts then I won't send any. Simples x
Needy/pursuing/pouty. NOT attractive.
As for the money issue, I wouldn't feed into her martyrdom/drama. Let her initiate the texts.
Puppy
Dude, I wouldn't text her at all if I had my way, not really my thing. She texts me and so I feel obliged to text her occasionally. She then just decides to ignore them and not communicate this to me. I call that rude. I was bought up not to be rude. I simply want to know what's going on so I can tell her to FO if she's going to be a flake.
I'd texted her the day before and she took about six hours to reply. No problem, figured she was busy. Sent her a text the following early afternoon just asking how she was and what her plans were for today. She never replied. I then sent this in the evening.
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My main point is that all of this was communicated AFTER she had decided to ignore my text.
So this was a problem for you or not?
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she had decided to ignore my text.
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She then seemed to think
So you know what she is thinking? How's that working for you?
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I am saying she should simply comunicate this to me at the time I texted in a straight-forward and adult manner.
She was very clear. You made assumptions and had expectations of what you would have done. My prior post was right on the money. You didn't listen to what I said either.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thanks for your reply. You seem to be missing my main point.
My main point is that all of this was communicated AFTER she had decided to ignore my text. She then seemed to think I should have guessed why she ignored it. I am saying she should simply comunicate this to me at the time I texted in a straight-forward and adult manner.
HUH????? You are suppose to be able to read her mind across an ocean. Didnt your daddy tell you that when you were about twelve or thirteen?
Dude, I wouldn't text her at all if I had my way, not really my thing. She texts me and so I feel obliged to text her occasionally. She then just decides to ignore them and not communicate this to me. I call that rude. I was bought up not to be rude. I simply want to know what's going on so I can tell her to FO if she's going to be a flake.
As for the money, not my issue.
"Dude,"
If you come across to your wife the same way you come across here (ironically, as "rude"), I suggest to you that may be part of your problem.
In any event, it's obvious that you really don't want "honest feedback," as you claimed, so I'll leave you alone.
plain and simple. It is weird to text people to ask them why they are not texting you back.
No it isn't. It depends on who they are and why you are texting them.
I don't think a single person on this thread has understood what I was saying/has read the original post properly.
She communicated her reason for not replying way AFTER she'd decided to ignore the text. If I was her and I'd received a text at one in the afternoon or whatever I'd have politely sent a text back saying 'Need to keep texts to a minimum, worried about cost' instead of just fracking ignoring it and then expecting me to know the reason why.
Everybody go read the original post again properly.
Dude, I wouldn't text her at all if I had my way, not really my thing. She texts me and so I feel obliged to text her occasionally. She then just decides to ignore them and not communicate this to me. I call that rude. I was bought up not to be rude. I simply want to know what's going on so I can tell her to FO if she's going to be a flake.
As for the money, not my issue.
"Dude,"
If you come across to your wife the same way you come across here (ironically, as "rude"), I suggest to you that may be part of your problem.
In any event, it's obvious that you really don't want "honest feedback," as you claimed, so I'll leave you alone.
Puppy
I appreciate your feedback but it doesn't help if people don't read the post properly and mix up the central issue. The central issue is not necessarily the contents of the text conversation it's the fact that she thinks I should have to guess her decisions.
Thanks for your reply. You seem to be missing my main point.
My main point is that all of this was communicated AFTER she had decided to ignore my text. She then seemed to think I should have guessed why she ignored it. I am saying she should simply comunicate this to me at the time I texted in a straight-forward and adult manner.
HUH????? You are suppose to be able to read her mind across an ocean. Didnt your daddy tell you that when you were about twelve or thirteen?
These questions are easy give us a harder one.
Are you being ironic or do you really see what my main point was?
