I would have told her what was going on or said that it was not the right time to talk about it or said what you said and stopped at about it. What you said at the end sounded like very high schoolish.
Next time. Keep eye contact on her. Start and end each conversation with her name spoken. Actually always start each conversation with saying her name. It puts her in perspective in your mind.
Always be nice and civil. If you cannot do this. Then you need to keep quiet. Or not be there. Until you can handle it. You are setting up future engagements each meeting.
If you offer nothing but nice and civil. It will be returned eventually. It will also help you two deal with splitting everything up. And if your going to go your seperate ways. Your last parting memory will be about doing what was right. With no hate or spite. Just doing what was best for both of you in a very difficult situation.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
I agree about the Uncle part- the fact is though it is very emotional for me and I am not yet able to separate those emotions from the thoughts or wants of an intact family. Meaning I would want to share those emotions and allow her to be there for me- but that is not what she wants to do...she's walking out the door.
I let the silence prevail after stating my claim about the friendship- I def see the potential or definite perspective of it being childish- again though it's the truth. She's not a friend to me. I would be willing to be a friend to her- as I still care for her- but it's not returned I do want her to know the losses she will have- I need her to feel it as well.
I appreciate the input. I like the advice about starting sentences w/ her name- I was in the habit of doing that in our last interactions-
Over all I think it was very civil, I just wanted her to know that I am no longer the one gazing deep into her eyes or bighting my tongue to keep from begging or R talk.
I do feel distant- and she knows everything I have to say, have said, or ever could say- so I have nothing to say now.
I'm thinking there is no reason for me to contact W to explain anything...
correct?
I like what Cutter said above, and in keeping with that, you might want to text her with "I appreciate you asking about my uncle last night, and I apologize if I was short with you. HE is (fill in condition here). I appreciate your concern."
Maybe Coach and you guys and Gno can help me w/ the truth darts-
I thought I was onto something about holding a mirror to her behavior- I also realized that the comment could be twisted or even ooze the wrong message.
Aren't the darts always able to go either way since it's something WAW doesn't want to see or believe?
More threats from OM today- I think this time I will go through w/ a RO-
Unreal- that this is W's "just friend", unreal that his bx his tolerated by her, unreal that I have been betrayed this way, unreal that he is held in esteem by W and MIL- un effing real
