My H went to my friend’s house for dinner last night. When he left she called me to inform me of what he said. Basically he told her that he is not having an A, and that this OW and he are just friends (which is a lie). She told him that if she were his wife, she would have @#%@#^@ (if you get what I mean). She explained to him that I should be more important then any friendship with this OW, and that if he wanted the M to work, he had to commit 100%. He told her that he was scared of getting hurt again, and that he doesn’t think I can change my controlling behavior. He also told her that he doesn’t feel like I really love him, and that I just want him back so I’m not alone and for help with house and kids. My friend told him that she knows me almost as good as he does if not better, and that she knows beyond a doubt that I love him.
My goal the next few days, is to distance myself from this sitch (as much as I can), until I can contact the OWH. I’m hoping to do that by this Saturday. I checked the phone records today, and she called him at 10:45 pm and it shows as 1 min (I suspect he didn’t answer, and she left a voice mail). She called him again an hour later at 12:15 am this morning, that one was 2 min long. I’m not sure if that is another voice mail or not. I know they IM a lot, so these phone calls could have been her telling him to get on the computer so they could talk, but I’m guessing. I will be seeing H tonight, his night with kids. However, I have tons of homework, so I will have something to keep me busy while he is around.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
