Passive-aggressive. Puts her on the defensive immediately.
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HER: Why you say that? Just costing loads this holiday now worried about extra costs. In bar now x x i like to hear from you xx
She told you exactly what is on her mind. She's worried about money - man's role is provider, she wants this from her man. She wants to hear from you, she tells you this clearly.
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ME: Cos you took about six hours to reply yesterday and didn't bother replying to text I sent this afternnon. Obviously I won't bother if you're so busy x
You get defensvie and ignore her. Then you end with another passive-aggressive comment.
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HER: You being shitty? x
Women talk - Questions are comments, comments are questions.
does this make my butt look big? My butt is big please reassure me that you are still attracted to me.
My butt is too big. Do you think my butt is too big?
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ME: Lol, no just saying if you're not going to reply to texts then I won't send any. Simples x
HER: Just loads of people around all the time x
ME: Fair enough, I'll see you when you get home x
HER: Up to you x x that is your choice x
ME: Lol, would you bother sending texts to someone who doesn't reply? See you when you get home, have a nice time x
HER: Yours are free. You're earning. I have to pay and not earning a penny. Not my fault.
ME: Well why didn't you just say so monkey girl? x
HER: I did. I said I'm worried about money.
yep, you didn't listen.
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ME: Instead of just ignoring, you know what I mean. Don't turn into an argument x
Now, is it just me but is she expecting me to mind read
She is supposed to know what you mean but you accuse her of mind reading?
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Am I being unreasonable?
No, you just don't have the listening skills to understand what she is saying. You have DAM disease, I used to be President now I am a informant.
Next time a concern of hers comes up - "I am worried about money." Validate her feelings - "I can see how the extra txting would concern you. How can I help you with that?"
Listen, validate, provide support - no fixing, assuming, getting defensive.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
