Well, the truth is - I'm going to need to co-parent with her. We're going to need to be partners.
She said to me last night, that she still thought we could be friends later, "even now..." Even now?? She's got this idea that somehow I'm the bad guy. Unbelievable.
Partners, yes. Co-parents -- absolutely. But friends???
That's your call. It's SO much a part of the "normalization" that people in affairs try to accomplish in the relationships around them, but I had to tell my wife that, if she chose to end our marriage this way (by cheating on me, lying about it to me and our family, and then CUTTING AND RUNNING and not even TRYING to work on the marriage), that I had absolutely ZERO INTENTION of remaining her friend, much less her BEST friend(which is what she wanted). Friends simply don't do that to each other, and I'm not really sure why people would think it's any different if the person is their ex-wife/husband.
Well, this shook her up pretty badly, and she told me later that it was one of the biggest reasons she reconciled with me: she missed our friendship. Those that continue to offer this key marital benefit, even while their spouses are cheating on them, I believe miss out on a VERY powerful tool.
Sorry for the rant, Bill, and sorry to see you still in so much pain.
