i'm not sure how to answer your questions. i don't know how i would feel if my H knew i was on this site. i see it as an outlet for me to get support, advice, and to honestly and openly talk about what's going on in my M that brought me here to begin with. did you let your W know that the site was for people trying to figure out how to save their marriages? i know you're in more of a position of trying to figure out IF you want to save your marriage, but the fact that you're here, doing the work, should say something to your W that you are not taking any of this lightly.
basically, i feel like i can use this forum to say things that i would maybe say in IC, or write in my journal, but that i wouldn't necessarily share with my H or friends/family. so i get why you wouldn't want to share your writings with her. but i agree with Lotus...what kind of outlet does your W have in dealing with all of this? does she have close friends/family she can talk to about things as she's trying to figure out what SHE wants? i know you're not at a point where you feel you can give her what she needs in terms of being that outlet...
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
